Considering I woke up this morning angry about something my friend said to me months ago... This week's challenge is definitely for me. I'm fascinated by all the reasons we have *not* to forgive. For some reason, we believe that forgiveness implies condoning. Or it means we're letting someone off the hook, as if we think they can sense our resentment from miles away (newsflash: they can't). So I'm looking forward to digging in this week as to why I hold onto grudges and what it would look like to let them go (if not forever, then at least for the duration of the challenge).
So true! I read something recently that said something like, "We forgive in order to right the past, not to invite the future." So it's really a way to "complete" the event for ourselves, set it aside, and move on. Forgiving absolutely doesn't equal condoning! And really, we forgive more for ourselves than for the other person (or dog). Which, by extension, means that *not* forgiving harms us more than them. I think that's why we can forgive someone without them even knowing about it.
Considering I woke up this morning angry about something my friend said to me months ago... This week's challenge is definitely for me. I'm fascinated by all the reasons we have *not* to forgive. For some reason, we believe that forgiveness implies condoning. Or it means we're letting someone off the hook, as if we think they can sense our resentment from miles away (newsflash: they can't). So I'm looking forward to digging in this week as to why I hold onto grudges and what it would look like to let them go (if not forever, then at least for the duration of the challenge).
So true! I read something recently that said something like, "We forgive in order to right the past, not to invite the future." So it's really a way to "complete" the event for ourselves, set it aside, and move on. Forgiving absolutely doesn't equal condoning! And really, we forgive more for ourselves than for the other person (or dog). Which, by extension, means that *not* forgiving harms us more than them. I think that's why we can forgive someone without them even knowing about it.